The trauma you’ve been through doesn’t have to write the rest of your story.

Women who have faced betrayal and ongoing distrust in their relationships have a difficult time finding the right support. Often they are told that they are codependent or that they should simply “just leave” their relationship. Well-meaning friends, family, and even therapists often ask questions that leave partners feeling very misunderstood. Questions such as,

“How did you not see what was going on?” Or...

“Why are you letting him treat you like this?”

If only it were so simple.

Here’s what well-meaning friends and family might not know:

  1. Most female partners of sex addicts had no idea what was going on because the attempts to conceal the behavior, lie-to or manipulate the partner were very sophisticated.
  2. Partners do not willingly sign up to be betrayed. Some women get red flags early on and others don’t. However, the majority of partners of sex addicts discover there is another reality than the one they’ve known for years, sometimes decades. There is so much to get to the bottom of in order to piece together that reality. Attempts to regain some bearings are made by a partner before she can feel certain of what she ought to do with her future.

The trauma you’ve been through doesn’t have to write the rest of your story. You need a gameplan to get your bearings and heal. Do you have one?

Equally important is the task of understanding the ways you are different now. The pain of betrayal has powerful impact on your physical, emotional, cognitive, sexual, and spiritual self. You are multi-dimensional… and this is precisely why it is no easy task to heal from Complex Partner Trauma.

 

Your next step to healing

We believe that partners can heal.

We help hurting women design their game plan for wholeness so that they do not have to base their healing on the progress of the addict or unhealthy person in their life.

Our 3-Day program takes place in Metro-Detroit, Michigan. These Intensives are done on an individual basis to meet your specific needs.

*Please note: It is not a part of our program to promote or encourage divorce. We offer support to women as they experience ambivalence about the relationship they are in without offering suggestions or directives toward or away from divorce. We believe that partners have the wisdom and ability to make their own life decisions.

 

 

Testimonials

"I just can't thank Dr. Magness and Hope enough for their hard work and dedication to helping my husband and I rebuild our marriage. With everything you helped us work through and the tools you taught us, I know we will have a successful marriage and my husband can stay sober. I can truly never thank either of you enough."

"On our flight home, I told my husband that I believed this might have been the most important, most challenging and most rewarding thing we have ever done in our lives. This intensive dove into the issues that are impossible to get to at home. It also touched on important issues outside of the addiction like communication."

"This was a difficult process that required a lot of trust, truth, heart and guts on both sides. The way Hope got to the difficult answers was extremely effective yet almost seemed painless as we were being led. Looking back it was very painful but it didn't feel that way while in it. She knew when to let me ask, talk, etc. She guided that discussion to ensure I knew the whole truth not just what he wanted me to know. She also knew that I believed my husband to be a very good man but I wasn't able to get to that guy - she helped him find that man."

"If you are looking for some awesome, knowledgeable people to work with, these are the guys I highly recommend. Their friendliness and result-driven approach is what I love about them."

"All I can say is thank you and I have Hope for a great future. Milton Magness should be proud of his program and of Hope - I believe we cut a year off of this process by attending this Intensive. Had we continued with the single therapy sessions alone we would probably not have been together. I know my personal health and career would not have been able to survive the time it was going to take for my husband to prepare this in regular therapy. Time is not always on your side. If you want to save your marriage as part of this process I believe this is the way to do it."

"The disclosure and the Polygraph were the most helpful parts of the intensive as I felt that I finally had the whole truth. The support to me during the intensive helped me feel heard and safe. The availability of the books/videos on site, made it easier to obtain the necessary tools we needed to begin our healing and recovery."